"Transform your relationship in 30 days!" You toss your phone to the side as you scroll past another article telling you that you aren’t doing enough to fix your relationship.
Instead of a quick fix, I want to encourage you to think of your relationship as something that needs tending — something you care for, return to, and grow with over time. This month on Reimagining Love, let’s dig into how small, ongoing acts of cultivation can create the conditions for deeper connection.
As you listen, use the related reflection questions to check in with yourself, and if you’re up for it, bring them to your partner as a conversation starter. The goal isn’t to “fix” anything — it’s to create space for curiosity, understanding, and connection.
💗From the Office of Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Unpacking your big relationship dynamics and questions
Turning On Your Own Spark
🎧 Listen to "Revisit & Reflect: Esther Perel on Reigniting The Spark in Your Relationship"
In this first episode of our new Revisit & Reflect series, we're stepping back in time to revisit my conversation with my friend, therapist and author and all around badass Esther Perel, who explores how to find play amidst despair and cultivate thriving relationships even when our roles and our space and our time feels blurred together. If you've ever felt disconnected from your own spark while trying to show up for everyone else, this reflection will help you find your way back to yourself.
Reflection: What specific, small actions can you take this week to reinvigorate your internal spark and connect with your own sense of aliveness, purely for yourself?
When Everything's Perfect...But
🎧 Listen to “Mailbag #3: Trouble in Paradise”
Have you ever felt like your relationship is amazing, but there’s one persistent challenge holding you back? In this mailbag episode, we dive into listener questions that center on challenges that feel hard to measure the impact of (“How big of a deal is this?”). We explore scenarios like navigating feelings of inadequacy against a partner's past, overcoming intense anxiety in new love, and the complex journey of reclaiming a beloved place after divorce. This episode will help you discover how to identify and address these lingering "buts" to foster deeper understanding and move forward in your relationships.
Reflection: Think about a situation in your life or a relationship where you feel a "but" — something that seems to hold you back despite other aspects being positive. How might you approach this challenge by seeking out its potential rather than solely focusing on the pain or obstacle?
Simple Shifts to Strengthen Your Bond
🎧 Listen to “Revisit & Reflect: Drs. John & Julie Gottman on Protecting Connection in Your Relationship”
Did you know that despite a steady stream of romantic myths teaching us that grand gestures equal true love, it’s actually what we do in the small moments that matters most? In this special Revisit & Reflect episode, Drs. John and Julie Gottman reveal their revolutionary "Small Things Often" principle. Discover how to shift your perception to notice the bids for connection that are already happening around you, and learn why those everyday moments of care are actually the secret to building a relationship full of joy, closeness, and understanding.
Reflection: Think about the last few interactions with your partner or someone close to you. What small gestures of care or connection might you have overlooked or dismissed as insignificant?
💓 In Conversation with Dr. Alexandra
Thought-provoking conversations with special guests
Re-igniting Passion & Redefining Intimacy
🎧 Listen to "Prioritizing Your Pleasure: How to Rediscover Your Spark"
Intimacy isn't just what happens between partners — it's how we show up for ourselves and everyone we love. Sexologist (and fellow MasterClass instructor!) Shan Boodram challenges us to think beyond bedroom connection and to lean into the art of intentional presence in all our relationships. We also talk about the beautiful and unexpected intersection of jewelry and sexual pleasure (trust me– you’re not going to want to miss it!). What I know for sure is that this conversation will leave you feeling bold, alive, and flirty!
Reflection: What small, intentional act of intimacy can you cultivate this week, both for yourself and with your partner?
Navigating Life with Kindness and Self-Trust
🎧 Listen to "Living Authentically: How to Cultivate Vulnerability, Emotional Safety, and Joy"
Sometimes life feels so heavy, and the people who are “supposed to” be there for you can’t be… or aren’t. Author and speaker Jen Pastiloff knows this feeling intimately, and she's discovered something powerful: your emotional oasis isn't a place you find, it's something you create through radical honesty and everyday acts of love. If you've ever felt like you're carrying too much alone, this conversation will remind you that your ride-or-dies are out there, and being vulnerable enough to let them see you is where real connection begins.
Reflection: Take a moment right now to stop and identify five beautiful, joyful, or peaceful things in your immediate surroundings or inner experience. How does this practice shift your awareness and connection to your aliveness?
Whether you're planting new seeds or tending what's already growing, I hope these episodes offer gentle wisdom and support. Until next time!
xo,
Dr. Alexandra
