You’re out there trying to do it all for your relationships — love well, grow wisely, maybe even text back on time. But sometimes, the real magic of connection isn’t in doing more. It’s slowing down and tuning in.
This month on Reimagining Love, we’re tuning out the noise — “Do more! Be better!” — and tuning in to something quieter, truer, and way less exhausting. These episodes dig into how real connection starts from within and radiates outward. Even the smallest shifts — actually listening, saying the gentle but honest thing, putting your phone down — can create a sense of emotional safety and lead to much deeper connections.
As you listen, use the related reflection questions to check in with yourself, and if you’re up for it, bring them to your partner as a conversation starter. The goal isn’t to “fix” anything, it’s to create space for curiosity, understanding, and connection.
💓 In Conversation with Dr. Alexandra
Thought-provoking conversations with special guests
The art of speaking your truth without starting a fight.
🎧 Listen to "Finding Abundance: The Expansion That Lives Within"
Real happiness and a sense of abundance bubble up from within. Finding your inner peace and learning to be present can change everything. Cathy Heller shares powerful ideas about speaking your truth in relationships — in a way that feels loving, not like you're laying down the law. We also explore how, sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is to recognize when a relationship isn't serving you anymore and have the courage to let it go. It's all about making space for what really brings you joy and ease.
Reflect: Is there a relationship in your life where you need to speak your truth with love and clarity? What small step can you take this week for your own inner peace?
How do we actually make time for love and connection in a distracted world?
🎧 Listen to "Your Mindset Changes Everything: The Power of Practical Optimism"
Want to bring more intention and positivity into your relationships? It's all about finding those small, consistent ways to nurture what matters. Dr. Sue Varma shares practical wisdom on being deliberate in how we connect — from mindfully managing technology to protecting your well-being and relationships. Learn how a touch of Practical Optimism can help you plan without getting stuck, and why even an eight-minute phone call can make a real difference.
Reflection: Consider the idea of practical optimism. Which of these pillars feels most challenging for you in your current life? Make a conscious effort to be fully present during your next interaction with someone you care about, putting away distractions.
Finding comfort, humor, and real connection after loss.
🎧 Listen to "How to Unbreak Your Heart: The Healing Power of Creativity"
Heartbreak can knock the wind right out of you. Suzy Hopkins and Hallie Bateman share their incredibly unique mother-daughter journey of healing after a tough breakup. They emphasize the power of "real speak" – being honest but also kind in your communication – for moving forward, especially when there's been deceit. This conversation explores how tenderness, truth, and humor can carry you through even the hardest moments, and unconditional love during difficult times. You’ll start to view love as a lens rather than a destination.
Reflection: Think about a past heartbreak or significant loss you experienced. Were there any unexpected sources of comfort or understanding you found? Consider one area in your life where you might benefit from practicing "real speak" – communicating honestly and kindly – even if it feels difficult.
Bridging the space between generations — One honest conversation at a time
🎧 Listen to "Crushes, First Love, and Heartbreak: Supporting Teens Through Relationship Milestones"
Parenting is its own kind of love story — one that unfolds in conversations, silences, and the space between generations. Lisa Phillips shares powerful insights on reimagining love in parent-child relationships with open and honest conversations with their kids about relationships, even when it feels awkward. From first crushes to big emotions, this episode explores how both generations can learn and grow together.
Reflection: Think about your first love or a significant early relationship. What kind of support or guidance would have been most helpful for you then?
Unlocking simple truths for a more fulfilling life.
🎧 Listen to "Wisdom From a Happiness Expert: Simple Truths For a Better Life"
Life is complex and full of tensions — the balance between self-acceptance and personal growth or navigating the tricky terrain of duty and desire in your relationships. Gretchen Rubin shares practical wisdom and conversation starters that will inspire you to reflect on your own journey and maybe even craft your own simple truths.
Reflection: Consider a relationship where the balance of connection feels challenging. Identify small, simple actions you could take (perhaps even inviting them for takeout or suggesting a walk to talk) to nurture that connection, even if it's not always effortless or purely based on mutual "care for" in the moment?
Paying attention to our inner world and prioritizing clear, open communication are really powerful shifts we can change the way we love and live. No matter where you are in your relationship journey, I hope these episodes offer new insights and space for connection. Until next time!
Xo,
Dr. Alexandra
